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The only risk... the risk not taken

Dear Michelle,

I am a 45 year old female that's experiencing anxiety attacks. The anxiety is stimulated by a job offer in a new town. This job would require that my husband and I to relocate.

The new job opportunity would rekindle my life and desire to grow physically and emotionally. What's holding me back?

Please advise if I am causing myself undo stress because of the fear of the unknown or if I know deep down that this move is not the right thing to do.

Sincerely, Thinks Too Much From Quincy Illinois

Dear Thinking One,

A woman answered an ad for a project manager position. The owner of the business was a nervous, fidgety man who constantly wiped his sweaty brow with a handkerchief. He explained that he had three employees, but none were capable of taking on his number one project. "I'm looking for someone to do my worrying for me."

This was certainly not what the young woman expected. "Your job will be to take all the money worries off my back," the owner said. "How much does the job pay?" the woman asked. "One hundred and fifty thousand dollars a year to start."

"One hundred fifty thousand!" she repeated. "But how can such a small business afford to pay that much money?" "That, said the owner, is your first worry."


Let's look at your handwriting to see what's behind your worries. First, can you see that your "b's" in the words "job" and "husband" form an "x"? When "x" formations show up when they are not expected it implies that the writer is consumed with thoughts about death and loss. It's also an indicator that the writer sabotages him or herself.

Secondly, look at the way you wrote the word, "Sincerely." The letter "S" forms a great big "X." But it also does something else. The ending stroke covers the entire word. This stroke, called an umbrella stroke, shows that you crave protection.

There's a Swedish proverb that says, "The afternoon knows what the morning never suspected." Moving to a new city and taking on a new job involves the unknown. It also involves the loss of the security in your everyday routine. Everything we do in life involves some risk. You can keep yourself safe and protected by not challenging yourself. Or you could move and "rekindle" your life and your "desire to grow physically and emotionally."

So, I ask you, which is the bigger risk?

Michelle Dresbold is a nationally known handwriting expert and personality profiler. Are you a doodler? Have a personal question or problem? Mail your doodles and handwritten letters to: The Handwriting Doctor, P.O. Box 1161, Monroeville, PA 15146.

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