The Gay Fiance
I read your column every week but I never thought that I would be writing to you. I met “Joe” on a dating site. We emailed for a while and finally met. He was everything that I dreamed of -- very handsome, sweet, and financially secure.
When we first met, there was a strong sexual attraction and our sex life was quite active. Joe loved to dress well and go to parties. Women were attracted to him, but so were men. Many of Joe’s male friends are gay. In fact, most of Joe’s male friend’s are gay. I really didn’t think much about it until Joe and I got engaged. After we got engaged, “Mike” (one of Joe’s gay friend’s) said to me, “Why are you marrying Joe. You do know that he’s gay, don’t you?”
I tried not to think about what Mike said but, recently, when I stayed over Joe’s, I found a stash of gay porn magazines. I’ve been married once before and it was a total disaster. I don’t want to make a mistake again. Could you, please, look at this sample of Joe’s handwriting and tell me what I’m getting into.
Rochelle from Plainview, NY
Does Joe’s closet door swing both ways? Let’s take a look at his handwriting.
The lower zone is where you’ll find the lower loops or lower extensions of the letters f, g, j, p, q, y and z. The lower zone correlates with the lower body and represents your physical, material and sexual needs, urges, and appetites.
Look at Joe’s lower zone (Hey, not there! I mean in his handwriting.). Do you see how some of Joe’s lower loops curve to the left while others flip- flop to the right? If Joe’s loops swing both ways, chances are that he does too.
You may want to be straight with him and just come out and ask him if he is gay or bisexual. If you do decide to ask him, try to avoid raising his fears that you will immediately end the relationship if he were to confess to his true sexuality. Be prepared for answers that you might not want to hear.
And, remember, detecting sexuality through handwriting analysis is not foolproof. However, if you see him walking down the street holding hands with another gorgeous guy while he’s wearing a tight pink t-shirt and a feather boa, then he's probably gay!
Michelle Dresbold is a nationally known handwriting expert and personality profiler. Are you a doodler? Have a personal question or problem? Mail your doodles and handwritten letters to: The Handwriting Doctor, P.O. Box 1161, Monroeville, PA 15146.